I hope that I find you all well.
I know this sounds like a morbid subject but it is a reality that unfortunately hits most of us. The news that we or a loved one has potentially a terminal illness is something that is catastrophic and feared by all of us.
The reason that I have decided to broach this subject is because it has just happened to me personally and as I was talking to my friend Lynn half an hour ago about her sister battling leukemia, I decided to see if I could bring you some advice on tackling this awful predicament spiritually.
To be honest most of us don’t even want to enter the ‘spiritual’ zone when we are flattened by terrible news but it does help. Even if you have no belief in angels or the Spirit World, what have you got to lose? I know that we want to blame God and every other higher power for our plight, but where does that truly get us?
My stepdad has just been diagnosed with lung cancer, it is inoperable. They are going to treat the tumour with radio therapy which will hopefully shrink the evil foreign body.
Initially shock and denial are the first visitors to the equation. These are the natural reactions to this type of news when grieving is initiated. After experiencing the initial shock however, I look through the human situation and start to seek out spiritual solace.
SPIRITUAL PATH OF COPING
The first thing that I did was have a conversation with my stepdad. I spoke to him of my experiences of when I have visited Heaven in meditation. I spoke of all of the stories that I could think of where spirit people have come through in readings describing their journey from their ailing physical bodies to the freedom and relief of being in Heaven.
The biggest joy was their reunion with their spirit loved ones that they had so sorely missed whilst on the Earth plain.
The sceptical would think that us mediums have created a Utopia to lessen the pain of physical death but this is not the case. For 26 years the evidence keeps on coming fluidly describing our transition and the afterlife.
I saw my step dad’s face lighten as I described what was to come if he couldn’t fight the illness. I faced the worst case scenario and discussed it freely and calmly with him.
A lot of my coping mechanism has come from 18 years as a police officer. My main role was as a detective in the Major Investigation Department as a Family Liaison officer. I told people that their loved ones had been murdered and sat with them through the whole process witnessing their grieving stages day by day.
I do not fear death and do not fear facing the conversation with a loved one. It is something you cannot avoid.
The next thing that I did was sit in a calm space on a nearby beach.
I went through all of the Archangels and selected the best ones for me (and you) to invoke during this awful time.
ARCHANGEL MICHAEL – Works on the royal blue ray of light – Michael will give you strength to move forward, protect you from the horror that surrounds you and help you to move on a let go of the stages of grief that will drag behind you week after week.
ARCHANGEL AZRAEL – works on a creamy white ray of light – He will bring peace and calm to you, your family and the loved one who is poorly. He helps to bring comfort during the final hours and will work with Archangel Gabriel to bring loved ones down from the spirit world to sit with your loved one who is passing.
ARCHANGEL RAPHAEL – works on a bright green ray of light – The patriarch of healing amongst the angel hierarchy. He will ease the physical, spiritual and emotional pain of your suffering and of your poorly loved one.
It is exceptionally simple to invoke angel energy. Just sit in a calm quiet space and say something to the effect of:
Archangel Azrael I give you permission to enter my life and I please ask you to surround myself and my loved ones as we go through the process of ………. illness and please sit by their side during this time
It is that simple.
The ultimate crystal I will always use during times of grieving is the Amethyst. It is purple in colour and helps us grieve and move forward.
Rose Quartz will also filter negative energy into pure positive energy.
Laboradite is also an excellent crystal for protecting your vulnerable energy during this awful time and mirroring anyone’s intentions that are brought to you.
To help your mind and body think of getting spiritual healing, Reiki or even a pamper at a local spa. Try to keep yourself as calm and as centred as possible. Archangel Chamuel also helps to promote self love and healing.
Meditation will help, but you don’t just need to sit in the lotus position! Sitting by the sea, gardening, walking the dog are all forms of meditation. Get yourself out in nature to clear your mind and soul.
If you are up to it, visit your local spiritualist centre who will help you in any way they can to ease your pain.
Do not under any circumstances visit a medium to help your grieving. You have to naturally go through the process or even aid it by counselling. I have had many people in the past desperately try to keep their loved ones alive through mediums. The danger is you will never grieve properly and your vulnerability could lead you to mediums who are not recommended and could damage you further.
There are many support structures in place, the most common voluntary grief support being CRUSE. There are also many forums on Facebook. Google is your tool here! Please don’t be afraid to reach out and ask for help. Sometimes relaying your pain to a stranger is unusually easier than with a friend or family member.
Although it is tempting, by taking any mood altering drug or substance such as alcohol will delay your grieving and stop your healing process in it’s tracks. Try to face this journey full on as it will be over quicker than numbing your pain.
When the time is right, you will either be faced with the opportunity of a reading or will be guided by your loved one after they have passed. Be patient!
ENDURING THE PAIN
NOTHING can appease your pain and hurt. No one can imagine how you are feeling. It is a long daunting path, but you will eventually get there. With these little bits of advice, the path may be a bit smoother.
If you are going through this now, whether you are the person with the illness or are going through it with a loved one, please do not think that you are alone. Seek solace in the knowledge that there is another dimension that you will transition to where your pain and suffering will become a distant memory.
I wish you love, strength and hope during this awful time.
I explore this subject further in my book which will be out soon HEAVEN CALLING. For the time being though I truly hope this helps.
Lots of love