THE LANGUAGE OF LOVE: BAGGING THAT SOUL MATE!

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THE LANGUAGE OF LOVE: BAGGING THAT SOUL MATE!

WHERE ART THOU?

One of the BIGGEST questions I get asked in readings is:

When will I meet my soul mate?

Is he/she right for me?

Are they going to leave their  partner for me?

Are we going to end up together?

So I thought that I would give you a little guidance on the rocky path of love and relationships.

When I do a reading and names and a vision of a person come to my mind then I know that you are open to a new relationship and they will come into your life.

When I don’t see or feel any energy for a new relationship this is where it gets sticky!  It means that for one reason or another you will not meet anyone because of your energy and what you are giving out to the Universe!

So when I tell people they have to make a few changes it’s normally not the answer that they want, they want the magical “Your tall dark handsome stranger will arrive in August”

Laws of attraction are strongest when we are looking for a potential partner.

Here’s a few tips of self awareness that you need to run through to see if you are in the most strongest energy to bag that new love.

Are you over them?

The biggest question you have to ask yourself is are you over your last relationship?  If your energy is still stalking them on Facebook, asking their mates what they have been up to and making yourself look amazing and ‘randomly’ turning up at their known haunts then you are not telling the Universe that you are ready for a new relationship.

You are focusing on his energy space so you may as well have a wedding ring finger on!

You have to let go and block any connection to this old relationship no matter how much they hurt you.

Many people wait for a new person to come along to take the pain away but if you do go out looking for a potential new mate to take the sting away what are you projecting as you go out hunting?

Anger, bitterness, pain, upset, revenge… the list goes on.  So if you do find a ‘plaster’ to replace your last love you will attract someone with the same energy.  This then leads to more problems!  They will be in exactly the same space as you!

ARE THEY RIGHT FOR ME?

If I had a penny for each time I was asked this question I would be sitting in the Maldives with my own dive boat and private sea hut!

If you have to ask someone else if the relationship is right then you have answered your own question.  It obviously isn’t as you wouldn’t be asking.  Unrequited love does not push you to ask questions about it!

AFFAIRS OF THE HEART

You are in a dull lifeless relationship, but you have not got the heart to end it so you pursue an affair.  Mmmn, even reading this shouts WHAT ARE YOU DOING? If you continue the affair and eventually leave your old partner who have you attracted?  Another person who has entered into the room of deceit happily with you.  Can you then trust them?  I hear you say, yes but my friend married their partner, yes but how rare is that?  How often do you hear this happy ending?

THE OTHER WOMAN

When I was in the Police this situation was rife.  I also pick it up a lot in readings.  The ever available perfect partner for the married man/woman.  You are their little window of happiness and lust.  That’s it.  There are promises, endearments, but again the reality is that people hang around for years waiting for their secret love to leave their home, spouse, children and lifestyle.  More often then not, they do not leave.

This begs the question, how has your self esteem reached such a low level that you are willing to be their part time entertainment?  I hear lots of people say ‘It suits me fine our arrangement’ Really?  Do you think that when you are poorly or on your birthday or when you are sitting alone on Christmas day or when you see social media photos of your lover on holiday with his family?

I CAN’T LEAVE

I remember doing a reading for someone who had spent 30 years of misery with her abusive alcoholic husband.  She was so kind and knew that he had a disease.  She had given away all of her power to him and had no self belief or strength to make the move to freedom.  You don’t get a badge at the end of your life saying, ‘Well done for sacrificing your life for another’.

I gave her some homework and tools to work on herself and her self belief.

A year later, despite being in her sixties, she moved out, got a flat,  changed her life, met a darling man and has never been happier, she regretted that she hadn’t done it sooner.

WHY AM I SINGLE?

I have met so many lovely, beautiful people who can’t understand why they are not attracting the right partner or not meeting anyone at all.  There is no magical answer that a psychic can provide as the answer is YOU.

LOVE YOURSELF FIRST

Lets just look at a few common phrases that we can all relate to:

Who would want me?

I always attract bad people

I need to lose weight as I look unattractive

They are out of my league

I’m never going to meet anyone

All men are bas@&$ds!

All women are evil

No one will ever want to marry me

What’s wrong with me?

I don’t deserve anyone

 

Read those statements through.

If you had an internet line that scoured the Universe these statements about yourself are going viral, that is the message you are sending out.

TIME TO CHANGE YOUR MESSAGE!

HOMEWORK FOR SINGLES

In a journal or note pad write down everything you feel about yourself that is negative.

Then write down your positive attributes.

Write a list of feelings you have for your ex, lover or partner if you are not happy with them.

If you are not happy in your marriage write down what the negatives are AND the positives.

Writing out your feelings in black and white is so powerful as if you just think it, your emotions blur the list.

After you have written your relevant list.  Take a break come back to the list and then write in a different coloured pen TRUE or FALSE next to each statement that you have made.  Are they BELIEFS or REALITIES?

If you have put TRUE next to the negative points about yourself, then this is what you do next.

Archangel Azrael, letting go

 

Archangel Azrael amongst other things helps you to let go of past belief systems and move on.  He also will sort problems out for the future and help you focus on change.

I see him as a male energy but do not worry if he manifests as feminine.  They choose what frequency to work with you on i.e masculine or feminine.

You simply have to say:

Archangel Azrael I give you permission to work with me to take away past hurt and my negative self beliefs.  Help me to move forward with focus and strength.

Then speak out loud the list of negatives that you want to be taken away from you.  You could even burn the negative list as a ritual to end your old belief systems.

Continually write these points out every week and see if they change.

Sometimes what we write we see clearly as a belief (false), something that we think about ourselves or a a situation but actually isn’t truth.  We need to focus on what is a reality (true)

FIND YOUR TRUTH, FIND YOUR REALITY

The next part is to start writing mantras about positive parts of your whole being

Whether you belief them or not is irrelavent.

‘I am lovable and deserve to be loved’

‘I have to the power to change my life and move on’

‘I am beautiful, strong and confident’

‘I am not second best’

Repeat your mantras every time you think of it.

INTENT IS YOUR DESTINY

Create your future:

‘I am in a loving relationship and very happy’

Then try and picture in your mind you walking along a beach hand in hand or whatever floats your boat!

The two crystals that I like for this energy homework are any black crystal especially Hematite that grounds and focuses your intent.

Rose quartz is the generic stone for love, positivity and filtering negativity from your life

Archangel Chamuel is the angel to call upon to promote self love, belief and strengthening your boundaries.

DON’T BE SECOND BEST, YOU DESERVE TO BE FIRST, ALWAYS!

As soon as you have worked through these little points and feel the strength and self belief flow through your soul, THEN take steps to meet people whether online or out and about.  You will attract who you are looking for in this new energy.  But be patient.  Be clear of the past, love yourself and believe that you are deserving of an abundant relationship.

Larimar is the perfect crystal when you are in this stage to attract your soul mate and promote communication in relationships.  get shopping!

A dear friend once gave me a card with a prayer on when I was going through troubled times.  This is my mantra, belief system and I apply it to every instance in my life when I need guidance.

Read it, breath it, live it and use it for everything x

 

Change your life!

You can change anything you want in your life.

You can create abundance and love around you.

You can attract the perfect soul mate.

You are beautiful.

You deserve love.

Love yourself and therefore love will find you xxx

It may seem like a load of work to do on yourself, but surely you deserve it, right?

Nicky xxxxx

 

 

 

 


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The Boot Camp of my Mind

HEALING STARTS FROM WITHIN

Have you ever woken up and thought, why the hell did I dream of that for?  Well I did , it was a random dream that was so intense that I woke up tearful.  I had dreamt that I was still with a certain ex who pretty much broke my heart.  I put it down to a random dream, but the next night it happened again.

This then lead to three weeks of dreaming about all my exes that had done wrong, been awful or had really hurt me.

By week one I realised that it was another spiritual boot camp.  I was healing my broken heart of bad relationships.  There were quite a few I can tell you!

The dreams felt so real it was like I was reliving them.  Every thought feeling and behaviour was revisited during dream state.

I needed to form a plan

I needed to form a plan

The first thing I did was dive into my spiritual knowledge itinerary.  What could I use or do to help me understand, heal from and end my apparent heart break?

ANGELS

Firstly I called upon Archangel Raphael as he is the Archangel of Healing.  I then called upon Archangel Azrael.  Now Archangel Azrael is usually the Archangel of death.  Not the grim reaper!  He helps souls part from their body and acclimatise to their new form.  He also assists people who are suffering the loss of that loved one.  However, he also assists with grieving and moving on from situations that brought us harm.  So I decided to call upon him.

After I had done the invocation, I decided to pull a few angel cards and to my amazement the first two cards were Azrael and Raphael.  The next two were, ‘time to heal from past hurt‘ and ‘importance in knowing your self worth and value

Wow they had heard my plea already!

I then had an Amethyst crystal resting on my heart chakra when I was laying down which was pretty much most of the day.

Amethyst amongst other benefits help you to grieve situations or people.

Now I didn’t think that I was grieving these losers from my past but obviously my guides and angels knew differently!

TOUGH TIMES

Admittedly it was tough.  A lot of the time I woke up crying or still feeling the love I had for these men.  I couldn’t understand how this was helping me, reliving each let down.

However, I diligently wrote out my feelings in my soul journal and started to see a pattern between the lines.

Incredibly and I have to add this now. I have at this very second received a message about my ex who stole thousands from me after my accident?! Talk about synchronicity! Wow! Karma works, I swear.

Anyway back to my journal.

ARE YOU WITH THE WRONG MAN OR WOMAN?

Writing in journals heals the soul

Writing in journals heals the soul

When I started to read over my experiences and what had happened in the relationships in black and white, it hit me like a bolt of lightening.  I have had such low self esteem that I had attracted predators time and time again.  Like attracts like, so what I thought of myself and believed about myself was unhealthy and so I naturally attracted the same ilk of men.

You are who you attract

You are who you attract

I realised that this had to change.

I needed to value myself, put me first and love everything about me unconditionally.

MY LIST

The first thing I did was make a TO DO list in my soul journal.

Students of my PRISM LIVING course will know all about this!  My Soul Journals are my most precious possession.  I cannot recommend enough keeping a diary of your innermost thoughts and feelings.  The words in black and white provide so much clarity and power!

My first TO DO was self care.  I could not cope with daily living so I decided to surrender and reach out.  I asked for a carer and help and I soon got it.

I got a cleaner in as i was not able to.  So instead of crying over a mess in the house this was now resolved.

I got a dog walker for my babies to release the guilt of not being able to take them out.

I decided to say three things every morning that I liked about myself.

I decided that I would not have ANYONE enter my house who I didn’t really want there.

I decided to improve my diet and try to manage my comfort eating.

I repeatedly placed a blessing on the names of the people who had abused me, hurt me, lied to me and cheated on me.  I sent them pink roses and asked for me to be let go emotionally from their energy that was obviously still connected to me. I did this with past friends as well.

I arranged for a counsellor to attend my home.

After doing this for just two weeks I felt incredibly different. To receive help in my daily care, to help me get through my pain emotionally and to love myself was life changing.

I started to get regular contact from friends I had let fade because of my illness.  These were my true die hard friends.

I find now that I am surrounded by the most caring, kindhearted genuine friends who have no ulterior motive.

If there is anyone who comes into my life with the wrong energy, their true colours are exposed so quickly it is quite remarkable.  My psychic intuition rings out stronger than it ever has  as soon as their energy changes to darker motives.

I am now free from the binds that tied me to past hurt.

Write out who has hurt you.  Make changes to move away from that energy.  Analyse your current relationships and see if you are in a mutually beneficial relationship with unconditional love.

If not

CHANGE IT!

I was such a people pleaser.  I was so desperate to be loved.  I would agree to things that I really didn’t want to do.  I allowed people that drained me and just used me for my esoteric knowledge to stay in my life.  I felt too weak and unsure of myself to say NO.  That ended by the conclusion of this particular boot camp.

Healing from hurt is never easy.  Nothing that is right is ever easy.  But believe me when you make the changes and start listening to your inner child, you become empowered.  The beauty of self belief and self love is truly remarkable.  It changes you as a person.  I will never let anyone ever take me for granted again.  Do the same!  Change your life!

It certainly worked for me.

After this period of self realisation, the dreams stopped of my exes and I felt a profound sense of freedom and inner strength.

I started to look forward to 2017  with such zest as I knew this would be the end of my dark night of the soul  (Please google this) and my resurrection. I couldn’t thank the angels and the Spirit World enough.  They were dragging through my every mistake and reason for failing in life.

I still get tearful now with so much gratitude as I look at my life now.  I am of course still chronically ill but it doesn’t matter.  I am surrounded by love, support and respect.  I adore my home and my fur babies, I am sugar and gluten free and on a bad day like this when I can’t get out of bed, rather than enshroud myself with self pity and sadness I have the wonderful opportunity to write and share my knowledge and experience with you beautiful people.  What could be better?

But whilst this seems like my fairy tale ending, I still had to get there!  There were still many battles ahead of me!

PHOENIX

But at that time in my life, with no permanent home and feeling so alone in the world with no career, I envisioned nothing but the Phoenix as soon as I started to slip into emotional darkness.  Like a phoenix from the flames, I knew that I was going to be reborn.  I had faith stronger than ever that my life was going to be amazing.

I am the Phoenix

I am the Phoenix

I was still bed bound most of the time, still in pain 24/7 but my mind kept me focused.  Yes I had horrendous days and still had obstacles to face in the next coming years, but, I KNEW I was going to be OK.  I just had to be patient and honour my healing journey.  That was the difference.

Until next time

Nicky xx

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


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