Dealing with terminal illness

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Dealing with terminal illness

Hello,

I hope that I find you all well.

I know this sounds like a morbid subject but it is a reality that unfortunately hits most of us.  The news that we or a loved one has potentially a terminal illness is something that is catastrophic and feared by all of us.

The reason that I have decided to broach this subject is because it has just happened to me personally and as I was talking to my friend Lynn half an hour ago about her sister battling leukemia, I decided to see if I could bring you some advice on tackling this awful predicament spiritually.

NON BELIEVER

To be honest most of us don’t even want to enter the ‘spiritual’ zone when we are flattened by terrible news but it does help.  Even if you have no belief in angels or the Spirit World, what have you got to lose? I know that we want to blame God and every other higher power for our plight, but where does that truly get us?

My stepdad has just been diagnosed with lung cancer, it is inoperable.  They are going to treat the tumour with radio therapy which will hopefully shrink the evil foreign body.

Initially shock and denial are the first visitors to the equation.  These are the natural reactions to this type of news when grieving is initiated.  After experiencing the initial shock however, I look through the human situation and start to seek out spiritual solace.

SPIRITUAL PATH OF COPING

The first thing that I did was have a conversation with my stepdad.  I spoke to him of my experiences of when I have visited Heaven in meditation.  I spoke of all of the stories that I could think of where spirit people have come through in readings describing their journey from their ailing physical bodies to the freedom and relief of being in Heaven.

The biggest joy was their reunion with their spirit loved ones that they had so sorely missed whilst on the Earth plain.

The sceptical would think that us mediums have created a Utopia to lessen the pain of physical death but this is not the case.  For 26 years the evidence keeps on coming fluidly describing our transition and the afterlife.

I saw my step dad’s face lighten as I described what was to come if he couldn’t fight the illness.  I faced the worst case scenario and discussed it freely and calmly with him.

A lot of my coping mechanism has come from 18 years as a police officer.  My main role was as a detective in the Major Investigation Department as a Family Liaison officer.  I told people that their loved ones had been murdered and sat with them through the whole process witnessing their grieving stages day by day.

I do not fear death and do not fear facing the conversation with a loved one.  It is something you cannot avoid.

ANGELS

The next thing that I did was sit in a calm space on a nearby beach.

I went through all of the Archangels and selected the best ones for me (and you) to invoke during this awful time.

ARCHANGEL MICHAEL – Works on the royal blue ray of light – Michael will give you strength to move forward, protect you from the horror that surrounds you and help you to move on a let go of the stages of grief that will drag behind you week after week.

Archangel Michael

ARCHANGEL AZRAEL – works on a creamy white ray of light – He will bring peace and calm to you, your family and the loved one who is poorly.  He helps to bring comfort during the final hours and will work with Archangel Gabriel to bring loved ones down from the spirit world to sit with your loved one who is passing.

ARCHANGEL RAPHAEL – works on a bright green ray of light – The patriarch of healing amongst the angel hierarchy.  He will ease the physical, spiritual and emotional pain of your suffering and of your poorly loved one.

INVOCATION

It is exceptionally simple to invoke angel energy.  Just sit in a calm quiet space and say something to the effect of:

Archangel Azrael I give you permission to enter my life and I please ask you to surround myself and my loved ones as we go through the process of ………. illness and please sit by their side during this time

It is that simple.

CRYSTALS

The ultimate crystal I will always use during times of grieving is the Amethyst.  It is purple in colour and helps us grieve and move forward.

Rose Quartz will also filter negative energy into pure positive energy.

Laboradite is also an excellent crystal for protecting your vulnerable energy during this awful time and mirroring anyone’s intentions that are brought to you.

SELF LOVE

To help your mind and body think of getting spiritual healing, Reiki or even a pamper at a local spa.  Try to keep yourself as calm and as centred as possible. Archangel Chamuel also helps to promote self love and healing.

Meditation will help, but you don’t just need to sit in the lotus position!  Sitting by the sea, gardening, walking the dog are all forms of meditation. Get yourself out in nature to clear your mind and soul.

If you are up to it, visit your local spiritualist centre who will help you in any way they can  to ease your pain.

FINAL ADVICE

Do not under any circumstances visit a medium to help your grieving.  You have to naturally go through the process or even aid it by counselling.  I have had many people in the past desperately try to keep their loved ones alive through mediums.  The danger is you will never grieve properly and your vulnerability could lead you to mediums who are not recommended and could damage you further.

There are many support structures in place, the most common voluntary grief support being CRUSE.  There are also many forums on Facebook.  Google is your tool here!  Please don’t be afraid to reach out and ask for help.  Sometimes relaying your pain to a stranger is unusually easier than with a friend or family member.

Although it is tempting, by taking any mood altering drug or substance such as alcohol will delay your grieving and stop your healing process in it’s tracks.  Try to face this journey full on as it will be over quicker than numbing your pain.

When the time is right, you will either be faced with the opportunity of a reading or will be guided by your loved one after they have passed.  Be patient!

ENDURING THE PAIN

NOTHING can appease your pain and hurt.  No one can imagine how you are feeling.  It is a long daunting path, but you will eventually get there.  With these little bits of advice, the path may be a bit smoother.

If you are going through this now, whether you are the person with the illness or are going through it with a loved one, please do not think that you are alone.  Seek solace in the knowledge that there is another dimension that you will transition to where your pain and suffering will become a distant memory.

I wish you love, strength and hope during this awful time.

I explore this subject further in my book which will be out soon HEAVEN CALLING.  For the time being though I truly hope this helps.

Lots of love

Nicky xxxxx

 

 

 


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It’s OK not to be OK

Hi everyone,

HEAVEN CALLING

I was just working on my book Heaven Calling and thought I would share exactly how I am feeling at the moment.

The book highlights  ways through my knowledge as a Major Investigations Detective and of course as a psychic medium how to cope with loss, overcome grief and embrace spiritual reunion.

Very simple words with a very simple description but to actually feel what that means represents a huge ball of trauma and heart break that no one can ever understand apart from when you personally go through it.

My driving force in this life has always been to bring comfort to the bereaved and proof of their loved one’s survival.  That has been the main work I have worked towards for 26 years.  But to now have the chance to help you through the initial loss to being ready and positive enough to embark on a spiritual relationship with your loved one is a gift beyond anything I can imagine.

YOUR STORIES

I have been reading so many stories that you have all kindly sent in about your experiences with losing loved ones whether they are friends, family or pets.  Thank you for this by the way as I am sure the writing may have either invoked true sadness or I hope, happiness on remembering their life.

I have cried so many times over the last few days!  The stories are breath taking, one for how brave you have been for enduring the pain and sadness, but also how amazingly your loved ones have manipulated situations and events to let you know that they are there.

Some of the young children and baby stories are so fantastic that I am literally champing at the bit to get this book submitted.

It is going to be one of my most proudest achievements and I cannot wait to tell those who have been involved that their loved ones have been immortalised.  It will be a dream come true.

GRIEF

Nothing can possibly totally heal the rift that you experience during loss.  Of course it doesn’t have to be someone passing on.  It can be an estrangement, loss of health, divorce, coping with terminal illness and anything where you have been faced with the harsh reality that nothing is ever going to be the same again.  But it really is OK not to be OK.

Baby steps and honouring the grieving process is always monitored and gently pushed along by your loved ones and the angel realms.  You may feel so alone, but just by talking out or thinking out a conversation with your loved one or to an angel really does help, trust me.  Just try it.

Take five minutes in a quiet or relaxing space.  Take a few deep breaths and think about nothing but the breaths that you are taking.  When your mind empties start to think of your loved one or the problem that ails you.  Get everything out in those thoughts that is bringing you pain.

After you have highlighted what you need help with thank the source for taking on your pain and ask them to help you.  Archangel Michael would be a fab one for this as he helps us move in with strength and focus and helps us to cut the binds of our grief.

Remember if you are asking the angels, they will need your permission to get involved as they cannot interfere with free will.

SIGNS

In the next couple of days after you have sent you SOS out, you will surely get a sign.

The common ones are fluffy white feathers in unusual places, butterflies, dragonflies, birds acting unnaturally or even a favourite song on the radio from your loved one.  They will pick the right sign to show you that they have heard your plea.

This is only a little tip, but by regularly doing this, you are intentionally connecting to the Universe and asking for help. The more that you do it, the higher your vibration rises which makes it easier for ethereal and celestial energy to blend with you and help.

I know that you hate the world, are angry with your situation and find it hard to keep going, but trust me, when you have a strong, silent invisible force standing right behind you, supporting you and nurturing you back to some normality, grieving and the fight to recover is a whole lot easier.

There are so many tips, exercises and inspiring stories in my book, but I just wanted to reach out and say that you may be suffering, but you are not alone.

MOMMA NATURE

I would also ask that during your day at some point when you have a quiet minute please send a heart in your minds eye to a. your loved one who you miss and b. another heart to all those that are suffering with these dreadful weather disasters at the moment.  Mother Nature isn’t happy with us and the way we treat the Earth, so these disasters will continue at an alarming level, I’m afraid.

Just a little thought from masses of people with the same message will reach the souls that are in distress on the Earth and the ones that have tragically been taken home.

We can do nothing but spread the love x

I would also love at this time to lay tribute to a magnificent icon of spiritual living and human learning, Louise Hay.

She has recently transitioned and gone back home leaving a legacy of truly inspiring writing and Hay House, the ultimate publishing machine that distributes to the world every thing we could possibly wish to learn and be inspired by.

I can honestly say that without You Can Heal Your Life, (my bible for spiritual living!) by Louise Hay, I would never have moved forward as quickly in recovering from my grief and tragedy.

May the angels embrace your beautiful soul Louise, God Bless xx

 

Until next time,

Much love

Nicky xx

 


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WANTED: PET/BABY STORIES FOR HEAVEN CALLING

WANTED!!!!!
Hi everyone.
I will soon be submitting a book for publishing called Heaven Calling.
I am looking for a couple more stories to do with your pets and babies who you have lost.
Have you lost a pet or baby and then you have had signs of them being about after they have passed? have they come through a medium or proved they are still with you beyond doubt?
If you have a magical story of how your pets and babies/young children have come back after passing please email me at nicky.alan@btinternet.com so that I can immortalise them in my book.
Thank you x


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THE CHILL LOUNGE Short story paranormal fiction

Hi all,

Just to let you know that my first three short stories are now out for you to download!

They are adult fiction with delicious paranormal twists.

They are all inspired from my own experiences, paranormal investigations, meditations, dreams and readings that I have carried out.

As you know I am unable to get out there in public so I do hope you download and enjoy these stories.

Some are inspirational with fundamental messages for all of us, some are purely educational and others just to put a chill down your spine!

THE GHOST HUNT is about Amber and Emma who go on a paranormal investigation at Angel House and get more than they bargained for


THE LOST THE LONELY AND THE BRAVE is a  story about a journalist investigating a police officer that commits suicide, with a huge twist.

THE WAITING ROOM is a beautiful depiction of the bond between mother and daughter during adversity.  This is particularly special to me as a spirit lady gave me the inspiration for this story during a reading with her daughter.

I am writing the next two and when they are finished and edited will be added to THE CHILL LOUNGE COLLECTION for your enjoyment.

So put your feet up with a cuppa and have five minutes out reading my little adventures covering all that is spooky and paranormal!

THE CHILL LOUNGE COLLECTION

Each download costs 75p and are all listed on my merchandise / shop page on the website.

All I have to give at the moment is my writing, so I hope that you enjoy each story and take on board the inspiration within each one.

I am still endeavouring to get EARTH WALKERS out there and will be submitting my non fiction book HEAVEN CALLING shortly.

I thank you for your never ending support and hope that you can support me in this new way of working through my writing,

Lots of Love

 

Nicky xxxxxx

www.nickyalan.co.uk


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What happens when we pass?

Hi all,
I have been recently speaking to a young lady who is tragically terminally ill. I know it is not the most positive of subjects at Christmas time but we may be unfortunate enough to have seriously ill relatives and friends at this time of the year.
I decided to send her some excerpts from my book HEAVEN CALLING
and from my book series EARTH WALKERS (fiction with spiritual fact) to try and give her an idea of what happens when we pass and perhaps a human picture of how heaven has been shown to me.
After I sent the email I thought I might share it with you all, in the hope that whoever needs it can be a little further educated on the process and receive comfort from it.
I fear it is a little long winded as I don’t think that I can send the chapters as an attachment on a post.
So if you have five minutes, it would be my honour and pleasure for you to have a read 🙂
Love N xxxx

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