THE LANGUAGE OF LOVE: BAGGING THAT SOUL MATE!

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THE LANGUAGE OF LOVE: BAGGING THAT SOUL MATE!

WHERE ART THOU?

One of the BIGGEST questions I get asked in readings is:

When will I meet my soul mate?

Is he/she right for me?

Are they going to leave their  partner for me?

Are we going to end up together?

So I thought that I would give you a little guidance on the rocky path of love and relationships.

When I do a reading and names and a vision of a person come to my mind then I know that you are open to a new relationship and they will come into your life.

When I don’t see or feel any energy for a new relationship this is where it gets sticky!  It means that for one reason or another you will not meet anyone because of your energy and what you are giving out to the Universe!

So when I tell people they have to make a few changes it’s normally not the answer that they want, they want the magical “Your tall dark handsome stranger will arrive in August”

Laws of attraction are strongest when we are looking for a potential partner.

Here’s a few tips of self awareness that you need to run through to see if you are in the most strongest energy to bag that new love.

Are you over them?

The biggest question you have to ask yourself is are you over your last relationship?  If your energy is still stalking them on Facebook, asking their mates what they have been up to and making yourself look amazing and ‘randomly’ turning up at their known haunts then you are not telling the Universe that you are ready for a new relationship.

You are focusing on his energy space so you may as well have a wedding ring finger on!

You have to let go and block any connection to this old relationship no matter how much they hurt you.

Many people wait for a new person to come along to take the pain away but if you do go out looking for a potential new mate to take the sting away what are you projecting as you go out hunting?

Anger, bitterness, pain, upset, revenge… the list goes on.  So if you do find a ‘plaster’ to replace your last love you will attract someone with the same energy.  This then leads to more problems!  They will be in exactly the same space as you!

ARE THEY RIGHT FOR ME?

If I had a penny for each time I was asked this question I would be sitting in the Maldives with my own dive boat and private sea hut!

If you have to ask someone else if the relationship is right then you have answered your own question.  It obviously isn’t as you wouldn’t be asking.  Unrequited love does not push you to ask questions about it!

AFFAIRS OF THE HEART

You are in a dull lifeless relationship, but you have not got the heart to end it so you pursue an affair.  Mmmn, even reading this shouts WHAT ARE YOU DOING? If you continue the affair and eventually leave your old partner who have you attracted?  Another person who has entered into the room of deceit happily with you.  Can you then trust them?  I hear you say, yes but my friend married their partner, yes but how rare is that?  How often do you hear this happy ending?

THE OTHER WOMAN

When I was in the Police this situation was rife.  I also pick it up a lot in readings.  The ever available perfect partner for the married man/woman.  You are their little window of happiness and lust.  That’s it.  There are promises, endearments, but again the reality is that people hang around for years waiting for their secret love to leave their home, spouse, children and lifestyle.  More often then not, they do not leave.

This begs the question, how has your self esteem reached such a low level that you are willing to be their part time entertainment?  I hear lots of people say ‘It suits me fine our arrangement’ Really?  Do you think that when you are poorly or on your birthday or when you are sitting alone on Christmas day or when you see social media photos of your lover on holiday with his family?

I CAN’T LEAVE

I remember doing a reading for someone who had spent 30 years of misery with her abusive alcoholic husband.  She was so kind and knew that he had a disease.  She had given away all of her power to him and had no self belief or strength to make the move to freedom.  You don’t get a badge at the end of your life saying, ‘Well done for sacrificing your life for another’.

I gave her some homework and tools to work on herself and her self belief.

A year later, despite being in her sixties, she moved out, got a flat,  changed her life, met a darling man and has never been happier, she regretted that she hadn’t done it sooner.

WHY AM I SINGLE?

I have met so many lovely, beautiful people who can’t understand why they are not attracting the right partner or not meeting anyone at all.  There is no magical answer that a psychic can provide as the answer is YOU.

LOVE YOURSELF FIRST

Lets just look at a few common phrases that we can all relate to:

Who would want me?

I always attract bad people

I need to lose weight as I look unattractive

They are out of my league

I’m never going to meet anyone

All men are bas@&$ds!

All women are evil

No one will ever want to marry me

What’s wrong with me?

I don’t deserve anyone

 

Read those statements through.

If you had an internet line that scoured the Universe these statements about yourself are going viral, that is the message you are sending out.

TIME TO CHANGE YOUR MESSAGE!

HOMEWORK FOR SINGLES

In a journal or note pad write down everything you feel about yourself that is negative.

Then write down your positive attributes.

Write a list of feelings you have for your ex, lover or partner if you are not happy with them.

If you are not happy in your marriage write down what the negatives are AND the positives.

Writing out your feelings in black and white is so powerful as if you just think it, your emotions blur the list.

After you have written your relevant list.  Take a break come back to the list and then write in a different coloured pen TRUE or FALSE next to each statement that you have made.  Are they BELIEFS or REALITIES?

If you have put TRUE next to the negative points about yourself, then this is what you do next.

Archangel Azrael, letting go

 

Archangel Azrael amongst other things helps you to let go of past belief systems and move on.  He also will sort problems out for the future and help you focus on change.

I see him as a male energy but do not worry if he manifests as feminine.  They choose what frequency to work with you on i.e masculine or feminine.

You simply have to say:

Archangel Azrael I give you permission to work with me to take away past hurt and my negative self beliefs.  Help me to move forward with focus and strength.

Then speak out loud the list of negatives that you want to be taken away from you.  You could even burn the negative list as a ritual to end your old belief systems.

Continually write these points out every week and see if they change.

Sometimes what we write we see clearly as a belief (false), something that we think about ourselves or a a situation but actually isn’t truth.  We need to focus on what is a reality (true)

FIND YOUR TRUTH, FIND YOUR REALITY

The next part is to start writing mantras about positive parts of your whole being

Whether you belief them or not is irrelavent.

‘I am lovable and deserve to be loved’

‘I have to the power to change my life and move on’

‘I am beautiful, strong and confident’

‘I am not second best’

Repeat your mantras every time you think of it.

INTENT IS YOUR DESTINY

Create your future:

‘I am in a loving relationship and very happy’

Then try and picture in your mind you walking along a beach hand in hand or whatever floats your boat!

The two crystals that I like for this energy homework are any black crystal especially Hematite that grounds and focuses your intent.

Rose quartz is the generic stone for love, positivity and filtering negativity from your life

Archangel Chamuel is the angel to call upon to promote self love, belief and strengthening your boundaries.

DON’T BE SECOND BEST, YOU DESERVE TO BE FIRST, ALWAYS!

As soon as you have worked through these little points and feel the strength and self belief flow through your soul, THEN take steps to meet people whether online or out and about.  You will attract who you are looking for in this new energy.  But be patient.  Be clear of the past, love yourself and believe that you are deserving of an abundant relationship.

Larimar is the perfect crystal when you are in this stage to attract your soul mate and promote communication in relationships.  get shopping!

A dear friend once gave me a card with a prayer on when I was going through troubled times.  This is my mantra, belief system and I apply it to every instance in my life when I need guidance.

Read it, breath it, live it and use it for everything x

 

Change your life!

You can change anything you want in your life.

You can create abundance and love around you.

You can attract the perfect soul mate.

You are beautiful.

You deserve love.

Love yourself and therefore love will find you xxx

It may seem like a load of work to do on yourself, but surely you deserve it, right?

Nicky xxxxx

 

 

 

 


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ME Myself and I. My Soul Diaries 9

FRIENDSHIP, NIGHTMARES AND THE LADYBIRD

I woke up and I was breathing like I had just ran a marathon.  I was soaked in sweat and felt like I had just been dragged from a time warp, a time in the past that I had never wanted to return to, ever.

During my teens after my dad had passed my mum unfortunately married, what I can only describe as nothing short of an animal.  Every day was like walking on egg shells hoping to appease him to prevent his frenzied violent attacks.  Fear roamed the corridors of our home like a malevolent shadow, waiting for any excuse to manifest itself.  I had along with other traumas, thought that I had dealt with this time in my life with therapy, but obviously not, as I was being taken back to that time every time I fell asleep.

The nightmares were so real that I thought I was dissolving into some sort of breakdown.  I was back as a teenager, angry, frustrated and  in the fear and terror of his vitriolic words, sneers and violence.  I just couldn’t work out why this was happening.  It was 1 Jan 2015 and I could see nothing but a black year ahead.  I just couldn’t shake out of it.  I was feeling like a victim again with the nightmares bringing all of my worried thoughts and innermost fears to the surface.  Why was I being made to suffer? The state I was in made me even more prone to not answering the phone.  It would buzz silently by my side but I refused to connect to the outside world, not even my closest friends had access, including Jay.  I couldn’t cope with talking, having any conversation or projecting my misery onto anyone else. I was isolating and I knew it.

THE LADYBIRD

My Totem Ladybird

My Totem Ladybird

As I went to grab my glass of water I was just about to take a sip and nearly swallowed a ladybird.  I carefully took it out of the inner rim of the glass and placed it onto the windowsill.  I then went back to sleep as the insomnia was horrific so most days I slept all day.

I woke up about 9pm fed my poor babies and was wide awake.  I had had yet another nightmare but chose to put it to the back of my mind as I literally ‘lost’ myself in Lost, a mysterious show where people are marooned on a very strange island.  I could hear a flickering sound and after a while realised that it was coming from under my lampshade.  It was the lady bird again.  Fearing she may burn on the light bulb, I caught her and took her downstairs to the lounge.

 

THE CEMETERY

I then decided to walk through the cemetery so the dogs could get a run.  Looking back on it, anyone from the road would have thought they had seen a ghost! I was in a white hooded dressing gown and carrying a torch!  I found a weird sense of solace sitting there in the silence under the starlit sky and the moon.  With no superficial light it felt ethereal.  I used to have many conversations with the angels there, in the black velvet of night.  But I never seemed to get an answer.  I felt an irony in that place, I felt like a ghost drifting through time and space with no specific goal or reason. It was so peaceful. I could understand why I had been given this space.

easebourne_cemetery_at_night_by_yoshi_1981

My starlit sanctuary

 

DIVINE INTERVENTION

When I walked back into the house, I of course went straight back to bed.  I saw something in the corner of my eye and saw that the ladybird was sitting on my pillow.  It just didn’t click, but remember the bumble bee?  So I huffed, lifted her up again and put her on the windowsill behind the net curtain.  I must have drifted off as at exactly 2.22 am I woke up and what was sitting on my hand?  The ladybird. I checked to see if this was a second ladybird, but there was nothing behind the net curtain, I recognised the markings anyway. It then finally hit me that this was a totem.  I googled it:

A ladybird heralds a time of luck.  Higher goals and new heights are possible.  Worries begin to dissipate.  New happiness will come about.  Don’t go too fast or try too hard to fulfil your dreams.  Let things flow at a natural pace.  In due course wishes come true.  Leave your worries behind you.  Do not be scared to live your own truth.  Protect your truth and know that it is yours to honour.

So it was about accepting my situation and allowing the processes to flow and resting throughout.  It was also telling me that I had to accept me and my new truth. It was to be difficult as I had always been driven to be the best at everything I did, as being good at doing nothing was the hugest obstacle I had to overcome.  It then hit me, was I being healed from my abuse trauma? Was there still a recess somewhere in my soul that tenaciously protected the memories and experiences of that trauma and they were finally being exorcised for good?  Was this part of the boot camp?  So many questions, but I just didn’t have the answers.

What I will say is these nightmares paved way to something magnificent and another tool to my itinerary that would prove useful in future years.  I just couldn’t see it at the time.  As for the luck and happiness to come, it was exactly right, but again I was in the black and at that moment in time there was no flicker of light to help me along my dark tunnel of isolation and misery.

I then googled 222:

222 as an angel number is one of the more common sequences shown to those who are awakening to the presence and guidance from the angelic realm.

The Angel Number 222 has a very significant and powerful vibration. It contains the attributes of 2 and 22, the Master Builder Number of inspiration, big ideas and the focus and persistence needed to manifest big dreams into reality.

222 as an Angel Number has to do with manifestation, keeping in balance, and creating blessings on a huge and global scale.

When you repetitively see 222, it’s a message from the angels that you’re on the right track. You’re in the right place at the right time. Stay positive, know that your angels are supporting you, but remember to ask for angelic assistance.

222 offers assurance that things are and will work out for the best when you focus on your desired outcome, stay positive, go with the flow, and continue taking steps in creating your desired result.

The Angel Number 222 is a reminder to keep the faith, to stay focused on what you want rather than what you do not, and to trust that all is well, and everything is working out according to Divine will for the highest and greatest good.

How inspiring!  It was a perfect explanation of my circumstances and my dream of publishing Earth Walkers, and just to back this up when I went back to sleep, I had another very lucid dream, another story that I was to write.  It is called Coffin Crashers and is a romantic adult comedy ficton about two girls who work in a funeral home and gate crash the funerals to find love!  It also enables me to bring in facts about the afterlife and the journey of our soul.  It’s an excellent story.  So perhaps I was being taken onto a new more creative path?  Becoming a writer of fantasy fiction?  Who knew.

The next three weeks brought the most horrific nightmares connected to my past, but miraculously, the dreams started to change.  By the end of this particular part of my spiritual boot camp, healing abuse, including an attack I experienced when I was 7, I found I was taking control of each dream and in the end won over the attacker and my mum’s ex husband.  After a few nights of me being the victor.  The nightmares stopped.

Yes I was indeed being healed finally of this past trauma.  It made me realise that perhaps the shadows in my soul were being erased in order for me to be clear, light and ready for my new spiritual work.

FRIENDSHIP

The morning after the last victorious nightmare, I went down to the front door to let the dogs out.  There on the doorstep was a basket full of food.  There was no note, no clue to who had left it there, it was just full of essentials that I needed.  As I put my arm up to steady myself by the front door, the ladybird was sitting on my arm.  I started to cry, I felt so grateful and most of all loved and thought of.  The food parcels, cooked meals and toiletries were left regularly on the doorstep.  I may not be reaching out, but I was being cared for in a most magical way.  I can honestly say, I would not be where I am now without my friends.

Never underestimate the true power of genuine friendship.  These are the beautiful souls who will be there for the highlights and the shadows.  I have found that my close friends are my family, my soul cluster.  Even though I hadn’t learned it yet, they were and are my lifeline.  Please if you suffer from a chronic illness, reach out to your friends, they are just waiting for you to ask, trust me.  There is no weakness in asking for help, if anything it is a refusal of self love and self care.  I still struggle, but I am getting there!

SUPPORT

I would also like to add, that if you have been the victim of any abuse or trauma, it may still be held in your soul as a shadow, even though you think you may have dealt with it, it could still be affecting your life now.

Please consider counselling if you are open to this type of therapy.  There are many other holistic ways through hypnosis, NLP, healing, CBT etc.

 

Archangel Raphael

Archangel Raphael

Ask Archangel Raphael to help heal your way forward.  It doesn’t have to be a specific prayer, just give him permission to come and help you.  He works on a beautiful green ray of light.  Imagine this colour in your head as you ask him to come and help you.

Archangel Michael, the warrior, is also a good Archangel to call upon, on a radiant blue light he can help you move forward with strength and focus and help cut any ties that bind you to the past.

Archangel Michael

Archangel Michael

 

Generally in the next few days you will get a specific sign from them to say that they had answered your call.  It can be anything to a feather delivered in an unnatural environment, an angel symbol or anything that will hit you as ‘weird’ or a representation of the angel realms!

Don’t allow your past to create your present and your future.  get rid of it once and for all.

 

My tale of the lady bird was a sad one, I found out she needed to be hibernated.  I placed her in a matchbox and put her in the porch but found her dead in the spring.  I was so upset!  But in her death, it almost felt symbolic, like there was a death of part of me which could surely only lead to resurrection…..


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