Dealing with terminal illness

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Dealing with terminal illness

Hello,

I hope that I find you all well.

I know this sounds like a morbid subject but it is a reality that unfortunately hits most of us.  The news that we or a loved one has potentially a terminal illness is something that is catastrophic and feared by all of us.

The reason that I have decided to broach this subject is because it has just happened to me personally and as I was talking to my friend Lynn half an hour ago about her sister battling leukemia, I decided to see if I could bring you some advice on tackling this awful predicament spiritually.

NON BELIEVER

To be honest most of us don’t even want to enter the ‘spiritual’ zone when we are flattened by terrible news but it does help.  Even if you have no belief in angels or the Spirit World, what have you got to lose? I know that we want to blame God and every other higher power for our plight, but where does that truly get us?

My stepdad has just been diagnosed with lung cancer, it is inoperable.  They are going to treat the tumour with radio therapy which will hopefully shrink the evil foreign body.

Initially shock and denial are the first visitors to the equation.  These are the natural reactions to this type of news when grieving is initiated.  After experiencing the initial shock however, I look through the human situation and start to seek out spiritual solace.

SPIRITUAL PATH OF COPING

The first thing that I did was have a conversation with my stepdad.  I spoke to him of my experiences of when I have visited Heaven in meditation.  I spoke of all of the stories that I could think of where spirit people have come through in readings describing their journey from their ailing physical bodies to the freedom and relief of being in Heaven.

The biggest joy was their reunion with their spirit loved ones that they had so sorely missed whilst on the Earth plain.

The sceptical would think that us mediums have created a Utopia to lessen the pain of physical death but this is not the case.  For 26 years the evidence keeps on coming fluidly describing our transition and the afterlife.

I saw my step dad’s face lighten as I described what was to come if he couldn’t fight the illness.  I faced the worst case scenario and discussed it freely and calmly with him.

A lot of my coping mechanism has come from 18 years as a police officer.  My main role was as a detective in the Major Investigation Department as a Family Liaison officer.  I told people that their loved ones had been murdered and sat with them through the whole process witnessing their grieving stages day by day.

I do not fear death and do not fear facing the conversation with a loved one.  It is something you cannot avoid.

ANGELS

The next thing that I did was sit in a calm space on a nearby beach.

I went through all of the Archangels and selected the best ones for me (and you) to invoke during this awful time.

ARCHANGEL MICHAEL – Works on the royal blue ray of light – Michael will give you strength to move forward, protect you from the horror that surrounds you and help you to move on a let go of the stages of grief that will drag behind you week after week.

Archangel Michael

ARCHANGEL AZRAEL – works on a creamy white ray of light – He will bring peace and calm to you, your family and the loved one who is poorly.  He helps to bring comfort during the final hours and will work with Archangel Gabriel to bring loved ones down from the spirit world to sit with your loved one who is passing.

ARCHANGEL RAPHAEL – works on a bright green ray of light – The patriarch of healing amongst the angel hierarchy.  He will ease the physical, spiritual and emotional pain of your suffering and of your poorly loved one.

INVOCATION

It is exceptionally simple to invoke angel energy.  Just sit in a calm quiet space and say something to the effect of:

Archangel Azrael I give you permission to enter my life and I please ask you to surround myself and my loved ones as we go through the process of ………. illness and please sit by their side during this time

It is that simple.

CRYSTALS

The ultimate crystal I will always use during times of grieving is the Amethyst.  It is purple in colour and helps us grieve and move forward.

Rose Quartz will also filter negative energy into pure positive energy.

Laboradite is also an excellent crystal for protecting your vulnerable energy during this awful time and mirroring anyone’s intentions that are brought to you.

SELF LOVE

To help your mind and body think of getting spiritual healing, Reiki or even a pamper at a local spa.  Try to keep yourself as calm and as centred as possible. Archangel Chamuel also helps to promote self love and healing.

Meditation will help, but you don’t just need to sit in the lotus position!  Sitting by the sea, gardening, walking the dog are all forms of meditation. Get yourself out in nature to clear your mind and soul.

If you are up to it, visit your local spiritualist centre who will help you in any way they can  to ease your pain.

FINAL ADVICE

Do not under any circumstances visit a medium to help your grieving.  You have to naturally go through the process or even aid it by counselling.  I have had many people in the past desperately try to keep their loved ones alive through mediums.  The danger is you will never grieve properly and your vulnerability could lead you to mediums who are not recommended and could damage you further.

There are many support structures in place, the most common voluntary grief support being CRUSE.  There are also many forums on Facebook.  Google is your tool here!  Please don’t be afraid to reach out and ask for help.  Sometimes relaying your pain to a stranger is unusually easier than with a friend or family member.

Although it is tempting, by taking any mood altering drug or substance such as alcohol will delay your grieving and stop your healing process in it’s tracks.  Try to face this journey full on as it will be over quicker than numbing your pain.

When the time is right, you will either be faced with the opportunity of a reading or will be guided by your loved one after they have passed.  Be patient!

ENDURING THE PAIN

NOTHING can appease your pain and hurt.  No one can imagine how you are feeling.  It is a long daunting path, but you will eventually get there.  With these little bits of advice, the path may be a bit smoother.

If you are going through this now, whether you are the person with the illness or are going through it with a loved one, please do not think that you are alone.  Seek solace in the knowledge that there is another dimension that you will transition to where your pain and suffering will become a distant memory.

I wish you love, strength and hope during this awful time.

I explore this subject further in my book which will be out soon HEAVEN CALLING.  For the time being though I truly hope this helps.

Lots of love

Nicky xxxxx

 

 

 


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Listen to ME

***ME/ CFS FIBROMYALGIA awareness post***
Normally you should wake up yawning, refreshed and ready for the day.
I have only woken up because the teeth gritting pain brought me out of sleep.
As I woke I clamped my teeth together as to breathe was like breathing with swords smashing through my ribs. Any movement to my back was like molten rocks hurling into my spine. This is on top of the pounding headache, eye socket pain and the insistent throbbing agony in every joint, nerve ending and muscle.
So I held my breath to try and stop the pain, frozen to the spot, unable to move an inch.
Eventually you have to change position so you have to breathe again, grit your teeth and shuffle inch by inch to reach for the pain killers.
Should be a story by an 80 year old, right?
This is how I have spent most of my 40’s.
People not affected by this condition don’t really care, I know I wouldn’t. But the scary fact is this disease is becoming a pandemic far more common than MS and breast cancer. Most people drag themselves through their lives just thinking they are tired or have a bit of arthritis, not even diagnosed properly.

Luckily we are just getting a multi million pound investment into this incurable condition for bio medical research.

Amazingly Jen Brea has swept the Film industry gathering nearly every award going for her documentary UNREST a documentary on filming ME sufferers from her own ME ridden bed. This will be out this month.

So society may be coming round slowly, but spare a thought if you know someone with this condition.

See if they need some fresh bread or milk. Understand that on some days they won’t answer the phone. Just sitting with them not talking, watching a film is worth more than gold. See if they need help cleaning themselves, drop by with some bed wipes, magazines, treats or a cooked dinner. This is what we need but would be too mortified to ask.

A high percentage of us are lonely, scared of the future and are fighting to stay positive every waking hour. But because we are young, stubborn pride kicks in.
My dream would be for warden controlled facilities for chronic illness sufferers. Cool flats to live in meeting places when you have a good day and a carer cleaning the place. I would move in, definitely.

I am having to move again now because I am too remote and do not see people for weeks apart from paid carers/ cleaners/helpers. Yet again I have to say goodbye to a house I adore as I am too lonely.

Most sufferers oddly enough are driven, successful, hard working people struck down after illness or trauma.

We are brave, we smile through the pain, multi symptoms and the slaughter of indescribable exhaustion. We say yes to events even though physically we are suffering incredibly, just to ‘people please’ and appear ‘normal’.

As like old people we suffer alone. We are left alone with no food, help or support for weeks, months or even years. I have to pay for all of my help.
That is all my money goes on, apart from pyjamas!

We have to fight to prove we are ill with the local health authority to get benefits because we can’t work.

Our illness still silently holds the stigma of ‘yuppie flu’. So we are forced in our weakened states to make an appeal against the local authorities proving our condition to get PIP and other monetary help. Five of my friends have to take on the authorities to prove they are ill. They have to create their case for court in weakened states. Currently they are on £90 a week to survive.
WHY?
Would we have to fight the authorities if we had severe asthma, cancer or severe arthritis? The more known conditions? The simple word is NO.
Tell your MP’s people. Let them take on your fight!

We lose, like I did, our homes, career, partners, independence and lifestyle.

GP’s avoid us as they take no measures to understand the illness. We become the experts, doctors aren’t worth the effort of getting dressed and sitting in front of crying your heart out asking for help.
They offer us no hope, they stuff us with more pain killers. They see us as hypochondriacs.
A GP in Devon told me I had no disability and needed to get a grip it wasn’t like I had broken a leg or something. I should have complained about her, but we are easy pickings as we don’t have the energy to fight.

Friends disappear as they don’t understand the condition or just don’t need the hassle.
Your world changes into a gold fish bowl where you spend every waking hour of your youthful life in bed or house bound searching for the next box set to take your mind off of your non existent life.
We live as ghosts.

Times need to change. Help someone you know who suffers. Spread awareness.
Share this page.

You or a loved one WILL be affected by this condition.

I have typed this very slowly as my fingers and brain are working like a 90 year old.
I took the time to type it, please take the time to read it.

Thank you x


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A Christmas Message

Happy Holidays!

 

There are positives and negatives in our lives, as we have to adhere to balance.  Sometimes the balance hits the negative end far too much, almost too much for us to take.  There is always though, something that shows us the light, puts us back on track, either as subtle as a whisper or a real slam dunker life change.  I have many, many emails sent to me, some of miracles, some of hope and even some where people wish their lives to end.

I am without a doubt the person that people consult about all things connecting to human death. I am asked daily how to cope with losing someone, how to cope with their own terminal illness, how to cope with their soul mate or child in heaven and many more horrific situations. Your bravery is astounding in some cases.  Your complete trust in my words and work is also utterly astounding.  It humbles me to tears whenever I see messages of support or the fact that I have brought you comfort.

I myself have had the most trying year of my life.  My health has crucified me and been relentless in stopping me in my tracks.  A slam dunker life change that I will have to listen to and DO something about next year!  In fact I sit here writing this whilst my soul mates run a Christmas miracle at Lupton House all for the greater good for human kind and I am here suffering with the worst flu.  I have missed out on something beautiful because I have not listened to the messages that the Universe has brought.  At last I will surrender and put my health first.

So, I ask you this, your negative balanced situation, can you change it? Is it just fear that stops you? Look at your life, set time aside before the New Year starts and see what needs to change.  You sometimes have to make the change, or the lesson will worsen just as my health has.

I can never bring your loved ones back in the physical way you yearn for them, what I can do is bring you comfort, proof, hope and love from the spirit world.  I can help educate you in all things such as angels, the spirit world and how to develop your relationship spiritually with your loved ones and the Universe.

So between us we can create goals, hope, brightness, love and strength.

Don’t let the negatives outweigh your positive path.  Always push for the swing of the scales going into the positive.  You are not alone, you are loved, you are watched over and protected whether you are aware of it or not.  It’s just sometimes our life lessons are there to progress our soul in a much bigger picture that you could ever imagine.

 

Hold on, have faith, have courage.

 

I’m not really a prayer person but I have always adopted the serenity prayer to my life situations:

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,

The courage to change the things that I can

And the wisdom to know the difference

It has always helped me along the rockier parts of my life.

So for the festive season, leave your worries behind, but address them before the New Year and start off with a challenge!

Embrace your friends, your family at this time, whoever brings you happiness, have them abundantly around you. Celebrate the life of the people who are celebrating their Christmas in Heaven.  No doubt if this is the first Christmas without your loved ones it’s going to be tough, but believe me when I say, they want you to enjoy their life that was spent with you.  They are horrified if such a love filled time has been ruined by their passing.  They didn’t mean to pass!

Raise a glass to them, know they are with you on Christmas day and that their invisible love will never leave you.

I wish you all the most peaceful love filled Christmas.  I sincerely hope that your New Year brings your dreams to reality and your nightmares to an end.  Together we can do it.

I also want to thank you wholeheartedly with every ounce of my being.  In my eighth year of representing the spirit and angel realms full time, you have tirelessly supported me and been there for me.

My ongoing, overwhelming presence of support, love and belief from you all is truly amazing.  It has made me cry, smile, and laugh, the beauty that you bring to me is second to none.  When I stand and see regular faces in the audience and the people that attend my workshops and the messages of love and thoughtfulness, the gifts you give me, it is so overwhelming!

May the angels bless you during Christmas and always and may your loved ones ever be present for the laughter and the tears. X

 

Here’s to a New Year, let us embrace it.  I will go forward knowing that you are all behind me, a knowledge that never leaves me. You go forward knowing your loved ones are behind you.

I am lucky, I don’t only have your support but the unrelenting love and support of Roy and my beautiful soul mate friends that are now my family.  I am truly blessed.

With all my love to you all at Christmas

Nicky xxxxxx

 

 


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