WHERE ART THOU?

One of the BIGGEST questions I get asked in readings is:

When will I meet my soul mate?

Is he/she right for me?

Are they going to leave their  partner for me?

Are we going to end up together?

So I thought that I would give you a little guidance on the rocky path of love and relationships.

When I do a reading and names and a vision of a person come to my mind then I know that you are open to a new relationship and they will come into your life.

When I don’t see or feel any energy for a new relationship this is where it gets sticky!  It means that for one reason or another you will not meet anyone because of your energy and what you are giving out to the Universe!

So when I tell people they have to make a few changes it’s normally not the answer that they want, they want the magical “Your tall dark handsome stranger will arrive in August”

Laws of attraction are strongest when we are looking for a potential partner.

Here’s a few tips of self awareness that you need to run through to see if you are in the most strongest energy to bag that new love.

Are you over them?

The biggest question you have to ask yourself is are you over your last relationship?  If your energy is still stalking them on Facebook, asking their mates what they have been up to and making yourself look amazing and ‘randomly’ turning up at their known haunts then you are not telling the Universe that you are ready for a new relationship.

You are focusing on his energy space so you may as well have a wedding ring finger on!

You have to let go and block any connection to this old relationship no matter how much they hurt you.

Many people wait for a new person to come along to take the pain away but if you do go out looking for a potential new mate to take the sting away what are you projecting as you go out hunting?

Anger, bitterness, pain, upset, revenge… the list goes on.  So if you do find a ‘plaster’ to replace your last love you will attract someone with the same energy.  This then leads to more problems!  They will be in exactly the same space as you!

ARE THEY RIGHT FOR ME?

If I had a penny for each time I was asked this question I would be sitting in the Maldives with my own dive boat and private sea hut!

If you have to ask someone else if the relationship is right then you have answered your own question.  It obviously isn’t as you wouldn’t be asking.  Unrequited love does not push you to ask questions about it!

AFFAIRS OF THE HEART

You are in a dull lifeless relationship, but you have not got the heart to end it so you pursue an affair.  Mmmn, even reading this shouts WHAT ARE YOU DOING? If you continue the affair and eventually leave your old partner who have you attracted?  Another person who has entered into the room of deceit happily with you.  Can you then trust them?  I hear you say, yes but my friend married their partner, yes but how rare is that?  How often do you hear this happy ending?

THE OTHER WOMAN

When I was in the Police this situation was rife.  I also pick it up a lot in readings.  The ever available perfect partner for the married man/woman.  You are their little window of happiness and lust.  That’s it.  There are promises, endearments, but again the reality is that people hang around for years waiting for their secret love to leave their home, spouse, children and lifestyle.  More often then not, they do not leave.

This begs the question, how has your self esteem reached such a low level that you are willing to be their part time entertainment?  I hear lots of people say ‘It suits me fine our arrangement’ Really?  Do you think that when you are poorly or on your birthday or when you are sitting alone on Christmas day or when you see social media photos of your lover on holiday with his family?

I CAN’T LEAVE

I remember doing a reading for someone who had spent 30 years of misery with her abusive alcoholic husband.  She was so kind and knew that he had a disease.  She had given away all of her power to him and had no self belief or strength to make the move to freedom.  You don’t get a badge at the end of your life saying, ‘Well done for sacrificing your life for another’.

I gave her some homework and tools to work on herself and her self belief.

A year later, despite being in her sixties, she moved out, got a flat,  changed her life, met a darling man and has never been happier, she regretted that she hadn’t done it sooner.

WHY AM I SINGLE?

I have met so many lovely, beautiful people who can’t understand why they are not attracting the right partner or not meeting anyone at all.  There is no magical answer that a psychic can provide as the answer is YOU.

LOVE YOURSELF FIRST

Lets just look at a few common phrases that we can all relate to:

Who would want me?

I always attract bad people

I need to lose weight as I look unattractive

They are out of my league

I’m never going to meet anyone

All men are bas@&$ds!

All women are evil

No one will ever want to marry me

What’s wrong with me?

I don’t deserve anyone

 

Read those statements through.

If you had an internet line that scoured the Universe these statements about yourself are going viral, that is the message you are sending out.

TIME TO CHANGE YOUR MESSAGE!

HOMEWORK FOR SINGLES

In a journal or note pad write down everything you feel about yourself that is negative.

Then write down your positive attributes.

Write a list of feelings you have for your ex, lover or partner if you are not happy with them.

If you are not happy in your marriage write down what the negatives are AND the positives.

Writing out your feelings in black and white is so powerful as if you just think it, your emotions blur the list.

After you have written your relevant list.  Take a break come back to the list and then write in a different coloured pen TRUE or FALSE next to each statement that you have made.  Are they BELIEFS or REALITIES?

If you have put TRUE next to the negative points about yourself, then this is what you do next.

Archangel Azrael, letting go

 

Archangel Azrael amongst other things helps you to let go of past belief systems and move on.  He also will sort problems out for the future and help you focus on change.

I see him as a male energy but do not worry if he manifests as feminine.  They choose what frequency to work with you on i.e masculine or feminine.

You simply have to say:

Archangel Azrael I give you permission to work with me to take away past hurt and my negative self beliefs.  Help me to move forward with focus and strength.

Then speak out loud the list of negatives that you want to be taken away from you.  You could even burn the negative list as a ritual to end your old belief systems.

Continually write these points out every week and see if they change.

Sometimes what we write we see clearly as a belief (false), something that we think about ourselves or a a situation but actually isn’t truth.  We need to focus on what is a reality (true)

FIND YOUR TRUTH, FIND YOUR REALITY

The next part is to start writing mantras about positive parts of your whole being

Whether you belief them or not is irrelavent.

‘I am lovable and deserve to be loved’

‘I have to the power to change my life and move on’

‘I am beautiful, strong and confident’

‘I am not second best’

Repeat your mantras every time you think of it.

INTENT IS YOUR DESTINY

Create your future:

‘I am in a loving relationship and very happy’

Then try and picture in your mind you walking along a beach hand in hand or whatever floats your boat!

The two crystals that I like for this energy homework are any black crystal especially Hematite that grounds and focuses your intent.

Rose quartz is the generic stone for love, positivity and filtering negativity from your life

Archangel Chamuel is the angel to call upon to promote self love, belief and strengthening your boundaries.

DON’T BE SECOND BEST, YOU DESERVE TO BE FIRST, ALWAYS!

As soon as you have worked through these little points and feel the strength and self belief flow through your soul, THEN take steps to meet people whether online or out and about.  You will attract who you are looking for in this new energy.  But be patient.  Be clear of the past, love yourself and believe that you are deserving of an abundant relationship.

Larimar is the perfect crystal when you are in this stage to attract your soul mate and promote communication in relationships.  get shopping!

A dear friend once gave me a card with a prayer on when I was going through troubled times.  This is my mantra, belief system and I apply it to every instance in my life when I need guidance.

Read it, breath it, live it and use it for everything x

 

Change your life!

You can change anything you want in your life.

You can create abundance and love around you.

You can attract the perfect soul mate.

You are beautiful.

You deserve love.

Love yourself and therefore love will find you xxx

It may seem like a load of work to do on yourself, but surely you deserve it, right?

Nicky xxxxx